How do I fix my messy marriage?

You guys are two different personalities, his contolling behaviour won't get better with time as you allready know. If you can find someone affectionate & understanding you'd be better off than being with your husband-husband will be nothing but misery for you. I had separated on controlling husband, missed him a lot, did not remarry. It is like you are miserable with him, and also miserable without him. Time to make up your mind for good.